tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post6320292611954936941..comments2024-03-27T15:32:54.441-04:00Comments on Southern Belle in Training: The great bikini debate.Annaliesehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07691548618653074600noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-41466901466576802952018-07-20T03:28:13.937-04:002018-07-20T03:28:13.937-04:00Sorry, Kaitlin, what that teacher did was gross. G...Sorry, Kaitlin, what that teacher did was gross. Girls aren't candy. She should have instead taught the boys not to see women that way.Kenneth Mick-Evanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03708260205031329807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-49636571170638609522014-08-19T15:00:51.431-04:002014-08-19T15:00:51.431-04:00I also agree with a lot of what nicole said:)I also agree with a lot of what nicole said:)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03685545859851371817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-2537113538299644602014-08-19T14:58:49.717-04:002014-08-19T14:58:49.717-04:00.................... I also think that we have a r....................... I also think that we have a responsibility toward our fellow men. do unto others as you would have them do unto you!<br /> I don't want a husband who has been all over other women! and if they have been it is those other womens fault, not the mans! and do you think a man would want a women who would dress herself so that a 100 men have lusted after her? I think not! I want to keep myself pure for my husband and wait for gods timing! I also want a husband who has not lusted over many women! our thought lead to actions you know, and by causing other mens thoughts to go astray I don't want to ruin another couples marriage. I could be helping to put in action a habit of lusting and acting. that is not what I want to do my friend!!!<br /><br />anyway, amazingfacts.org has some good stuff on this. it is called "death of modesty"<br /><br />I really don't mean to point fingers a t anybody, so if I have seemed that way, i am sorry!<br /><br />~Kaitlin<br /><br />www.contentinhiswill.blogspot.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03685545859851371817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-753761869811398582014-08-19T14:51:49.261-04:002014-08-19T14:51:49.261-04:00Hey!
Now, you may think me very weird for a 14 yea...Hey!<br />Now, you may think me very weird for a 14 year old girl, but I have never worn a bikini or even shorts and a tank swimming. not even a 1 piece! I always wear capris and a t-shirt (with a one-peice under it). And I don't miss it! I am so used to dressing modestly that I would feel very uncomfortable in anything more revealing! I also wear only skirts at home. <br /> You probably think that I am very weird, but really, I don't miss it! <br />one thing to consider is this, it was written by some very sincire young men.<br /><br />Dear girls,<br />dressing immodestly is like rolling around in manure. yes, you'll get attention, but mostly from pigs. <br />sincerely, real men<br /><br />also consider this story<br /><br />there was a teacher who had several girls in her class that had trouble with the dress code at the school. one day, these students came in early to class and told the teacher, "we wish that you where in charge of this school, we know that you would not make us dress like this!" the teacher was a bit surprised but said "yes I would. its not just what you wear, but it affects the young men around you" the girls looked disgusted and said, "the boys can take care of themselves, its not our problem if they can't keep themselves in line"<br />the teacher said no more, but called class to order. the next day she separated the boys from the girls and sent the boys to another room. then she showed the girls a bag of candy. she said "don't look at the candy, don't think about the candy, don't talk about the candy, this candy is not for you! if you even look at the candy, you will get a demerit!" then she set the candy on the shelf and went into another room. when she came bag all the girls had their books in front of their faces, and several had demerits. the teacher then told them "this is how it is for the guys. you are like this candy to them when you flaunt yourself off. was it my fault you guys got demerits? if I had not put the candy there for you to see, you would not have gotten them. the guys can't help themselves from thinking about you anymore then you can about the candy!" the girls where very sober, but got the point................................Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03685545859851371817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-2610219278557949972013-07-11T16:03:34.053-04:002013-07-11T16:03:34.053-04:00I love that you really explored your thought here!...I love that you really explored your thought here! I agree with you, this topic is something that I haven't considered a whole lot, but lately I've been thinking more about it. I watched this video recently and it really hit me hard. I was forced to really think about the idea of the bikini and why I wore one. I really felt the Lord convicting me and I began to think more about it. I talked with my husband about it, but it wasn't something that he felt totally convicted about. He mostly just wants me to be comfortable. Now, I am going to start buying more cute one pieces or tankinis. We've been at the beach all week and I brought 2 one pieces and I've felt a lot more comfortable wearing them. I still have my bikinis, but like you, I have more "covering" ones, so that I don't feel totally exposed. For me, I feel that wearing more one pieces will be best. I feel a lot more comfortable. <br /><br />I have to disagree with some of your commenters. I don't believe the Lord wants us to dress in whatever way we want and not consider how it makes the opposite sex react. Yes, some men will look at women sexually no matter what they are wearing. But, should we invite all men to look? No! I think we should be respectful of men and how they are physical beings. I think it is unwise to have a mindset of "they need to control themselves". We should respect them and dress modestly so they don't have as big of a struggle looking at us.<br /><br />With that being said, modesty goes far beyond just what we wear. If we are modest in the way that we act and speak that will make a big difference too! There are many women who wear one pieces, but who don't act in a modest way. I think we should start this discussion in the way that we act! I know that I need to be more cautious about the way I act and speak. Just something to think about. :)<br /><br />Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and your convictions. You've given us a lot to think about!Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08518014035115413679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-62053577291806745302013-07-10T22:00:58.311-04:002013-07-10T22:00:58.311-04:00Great post. I saw this video around a few times bu...Great post. I saw this video around a few times but finally took the time to watch it. I have read similar studies to what she shared and I, too, have received unwanted attention from guys when wearing a bikini. I do wear bikinis but I try to avoid string bikinis and wear bandeau tops since they offer more coverage. I'm comfortable in that and my husband is fine with it. Who are we to judge what others wear right? Very thoughtful post and I'd love to hear more if you continue to feel convicted.<br /><br />(also love the sheer one piece!)Ellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18137867595352842956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-18552442925014563052013-07-10T21:05:45.337-04:002013-07-10T21:05:45.337-04:00Great post, Annaliese!
I wore a lot of one piece...Great post, Annaliese! <br /><br />I wore a lot of one pieces growing up, and up until high school when I did wear a two piece, it covered my stomach (I think they call those tankinis?). My mother wanted to keep me “age appropriate.” I like to consider myself modest, but not a conservative dresser. Personally, for me, I have no problem with wearing bikinis. I don’t find their conflict with my faith. I don’t get uncomfortable when men “check me out.” What I wear still covers what they need to cover. Being a more modest dressed, I like things being covered; I don’t wear string bikinis. <br /><br />I don't wear them because I want attention from the opposite gender, I wear them because I like the way I look and feel in them. However, I like the way I look and feel in many one-pieces and tankinis, too. Personally, I feel that a woman should be able to wear and do what she wants so long as she isn’t be harmful to herself, without being blamed for the actions of others. (It isn’t a girl’s fault if a man wolf-whistles to her, even if she is dressing provocatively. The man should know better.) Who we are inside and our actions are more important than the way we dress. That said, if a girl chooses to cover up, by all rights – that is good for her. That is her decision. No one should make her feel bad about it. Just as it is another girl’s decision to wear a bikini. <br /><br />And I think it all depends on the reasons for doing it. My faith has taught me that doing things out of shame is unhealthy while doing them from a place of love and honoring of yourself is the most holy thing you can do. It’s all about gut, heart and intuition. That’s where God lives inside us. :) The issue is very individual.<br /><br />Perhaps when I get my blog up and running, I’ll do a post of my own about this and a few other related issues that have been on my mind. Really great topic! Love it!!<br />Miss Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10847762707432110245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-81552357065179428562013-07-10T13:16:39.112-04:002013-07-10T13:16:39.112-04:00I really love your post! I have found myself in th...I really love your post! I have found myself in the same position thinking about this issue this summer. I have felt convicted myself and fins myself less comfortable in a two piece. Occasionally i switch it up with a cute one piece and feel like I am being less flashy! I do agree with Jessica and think that it does vary person to person. God hasn't convicted me about this until this year.. I really like how you mentioned we are to be set apart. I think that is a valid argument as to why not to wear a bikini!<br /><br />xoxo- Maddy Grace<br /> http://lifeoffaithbymaddygrace.blogspot.com/Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08207240253673764935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-65659634576160227312013-07-10T02:59:30.475-04:002013-07-10T02:59:30.475-04:00Love this post! Great writing girl! One of my fav...Love this post! Great writing girl! One of my favorite Christian authors is Joyce Meyer, she talks a lot about following the spirits guiding individually in our own lives, and why it's dangerous to compare and reason with that with other peoples callings. As for bikinis, for me personally I think that they are okay, and I think the problem with them lies in the reason behind why so many girls wear them. I just wear them because I want to get tan on my stomach and I especially like them to lay out in on really hot days. Like you said, God may be calling you differently about that topic and he may be using you to be a wonderful modest example, were all given a unique calling! Awesome post! Jessica L Martinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10108997444366380764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-76315475914551105562013-07-09T20:59:55.982-04:002013-07-09T20:59:55.982-04:00Great post, Annaliese! I'm pretty Catholic mys...Great post, Annaliese! I'm pretty Catholic myself, and I do wear bikinis. That being said, I don't wear bathing suits that some of my friends wear when their boobs and bottom are more visible and have less coverage. Mine are usually fuller bottom pieces, and no push-up bra tops. I don't see anything wrong with wearing a bikini if you don't act in a skimpy or slutty manner. I hold myself at the highest respect when I wear bathing suits, regardless of how covered I am in them. I do understand your view on the matter, though. Great post! <br /><br />XOcaro | the caro diariesCaro @ The Caro Diarieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13573086998212629181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-8738728187842401792013-07-09T15:13:17.259-04:002013-07-09T15:13:17.259-04:00I think this is a great post Annaliese! It's a...I think this is a great post Annaliese! It's a great topic to bring up because Christian girls are kinda caught in the crossfire with this. I know I've been before. And I go to a Christian school that has a big beach scene so there's always pictures of girls in bikinis on instagram or facebook. I also recently bought a tankini top for the camps I'm working at this summer (we can't show our mid sections in front of the kids), so I've thought about this issue too. I also love bikinis for the same reasons you do so it's really a struggle to fight over. However, I love your thoughts on it! Kriselle Mendozahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12296882732469959920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-77816194260347551732013-07-09T11:14:34.655-04:002013-07-09T11:14:34.655-04:00Thanks so much for sharing this!! I had never seen...Thanks so much for sharing this!! I had never seen the video before and it was full of facts that I never knew! I enjoyed this post so much. This is the first true time I started to think about this topic. I've seen my Christian friends wear both bikinis and more modest one pieces, so I always thought either was fine..never really thought about it too much. I started wearing bikinis because it was hard to find a one piece that fit me properly and of course because bikinis were the trendy thing to do. I still wear bikinis, but I think I'm going to reevaluate my next swimwear purchase. <br /><br />xo, ginaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07808085175094634163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-72559440159548248392013-07-09T09:57:29.557-04:002013-07-09T09:57:29.557-04:00very Interesting post, I personally do wear bikini...very Interesting post, I personally do wear bikinis(though I do wear swimsuits as well) , I don't wear them because I want attention from the opposite gender, I just find them more comfortable. I come from a viewpoint where I think a woman should be able to where what ever she wants and not be be blamed for the actions of others because of how she dresses, and I say this as a girl who has very strong morals when it comes to dating, premarital sex,drinking,drugs etc. I don't think it about how your dress, it is about how you act and who you are on the inside that is more important. For I know girls who choose to cover up, but don't up hold these moral standards and essentially creating a facade of morality which I personally feel is so much worse. <br />But when it comes down to it, it is a decision between a girl and god and nobody else should interfere (that includes boyfriends, and husbands)<br />Rebecca Elizabeth<br />xox<br />englishprepster.blogspot.co.uk<br /><br />SavingScottshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00816160126005103600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-53752855155705176012013-07-09T08:14:51.065-04:002013-07-09T08:14:51.065-04:00I liked reading this post! I usually hate this deb...I liked reading this post! I usually hate this debate, but you handled it well. I personally don't wear bikinis, but that's only because I don't have the body for them (I'm self conscious even in a one-piece, but I manage). So you bet that when all my working out and healthy eating pays off, I'll want to wear a bikini! I don't have a problem with Christians wearing them as long as they're somewhat modest? (Is modest bikini an oxymoron?) But I also tend to stand on the side of "guys should control themselves, we shouldn't have to dress assuming they can't". Anyway, this is clearly a complicated issue I'm still fleshing out but I'd love to discuss this over email!Eleanor Hartehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15325929997331254216noreply@blogger.com