tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post3846000816093035149..comments2024-03-16T18:52:40.898-04:00Comments on Southern Belle in Training: Southern Belle in Vermont: 2 Months Post-Move Update.Annaliesehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07691548618653074600noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-67035586794521084602017-06-15T08:29:01.312-04:002017-06-15T08:29:01.312-04:00Moving can be really rough. When I moved out of my...Moving can be really rough. When I moved out of my parents house I didn't really make any friends besides people at work (and even those weren't people I hung out with outside of work) very quickly, I also tried Tinder and met the most boring guy in the entire world. I met my husband about 5 months after I moved here and that really opened the door for me making more friends. We're planning on moving in about 6 months and I'm honestly so nervous about it. One of our options is the area where I went to college so I do have a few friends there, but the other option is in South Carolina which is a full days drive from here and I know no one. My husband has already been talking to people from some churches there, though, because he's hoping to attend seminary in Greenville so I hope getting plugged into a church early on in the process will help me make friends!cupkatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03220276858854266628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-75268035818603176212017-06-14T16:22:37.805-04:002017-06-14T16:22:37.805-04:00I appreciate your candid honesty, immensely. My fi...I appreciate your candid honesty, immensely. My fiance and I are moving to a brand new state and city in just about a month and a half and I'm thankful I have him and our little dog. Dating and networking apps are SO freaking different in different cities and states, but I think you're doing the right thing by being out and about. Heck, even through going to the gym you might be able to meet a few people. Thank you for this post and I look forward to more of these posts down the line. Sending you virtual hugs from Illinois!Kristinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08097578644158236866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-65653669406038025482017-06-14T13:19:14.355-04:002017-06-14T13:19:14.355-04:00I know you feel like you're struggling right n...I know you feel like you're struggling right now, but God totally has a plan for you in your life-you never know what direction He might have you go! You sound like you're doing absolutely everything you can be doing to make connections (trying out churches, going to the gym, going to activities, etc.) so just keep on keeping on :)<br /><br />xoxo, SS<br /><br /><br />www.SouthernAndStyle.comSouthern & Stylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05265973916180989855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-49065030658258636762017-06-14T12:41:28.304-04:002017-06-14T12:41:28.304-04:00Moving is hard! I really appreciate your honest sh...Moving is hard! I really appreciate your honest sharing of your experiences and feelings. It seems like you are being really proactive about finding other people to spend time with and make connections with. Keep on keeping on!Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13723062899974600506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-14902341187589967052017-06-14T08:59:52.338-04:002017-06-14T08:59:52.338-04:00I tried Bumble BFF! I thought it was a huge fail t...I tried Bumble BFF! I thought it was a huge fail too! I met some cool people - but it all just fizzled out. It was weird since things seemed to go well. Then I felt weird like I was dating someone and all in my head hahaRachel @ The Confused Millennialhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08548260893933070205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-91041582538881587212017-06-13T22:21:53.260-04:002017-06-13T22:21:53.260-04:00Hey gal! I am so sorry that you're having a ha...Hey gal! I am so sorry that you're having a hard time with the move. I moved across the country post-graduation to Kansas and it was the best thing I could have do (but also the hardest). If I can give you any advice it would be to see if there is a young professional community service or community group. I joined the Junior League (there are leagues all across the country) and that's how I met all my friends! Your chamber of commerce may also have a young professionals program (ours does here). It's hard to make new friends but it is do-able- and you've got this girl!! :)Girl Meets Bowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14371255612127251568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-25273438401723548882017-06-13T21:54:22.843-04:002017-06-13T21:54:22.843-04:00Ahh moves to new cities! I know the feelings you&#...Ahh moves to new cities! I know the feelings you're experiencing oh too well. But good news: if you've actually been on date after using those apps, you're already doing 100x better than me, lol. Alexis R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03567727934198449323noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-38007702997990052642017-06-13T19:26:22.855-04:002017-06-13T19:26:22.855-04:00Thank you for being so honest about your move to a...Thank you for being so honest about your move to a completely new state! Moving to a new state is hard, especially when you don't know many people where you're moving but keep your head up girl!! You sound like you're doing great with reaching out to other people and finding things to do :) It just takes time to get used to the new town! <br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17863087076692684294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-11238071363969943972017-06-13T18:11:29.739-04:002017-06-13T18:11:29.739-04:00It sounds like you are settling in really well! I&...It sounds like you are settling in really well! I'm so glad you got to visit Montreal... and for Chance the Rapper nonetheless! Hope you got your fair share of poutine. Kuleighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16262138309983658517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-62469521833765411172017-06-13T18:11:09.587-04:002017-06-13T18:11:09.587-04:00Yes!!! Get a dog. They make life so much better! T...Yes!!! Get a dog. They make life so much better! They really are not too much money, especially if you rescue. With vet bills and food, probably $1500 a year.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07310635576867767643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-50373776570809517202017-06-13T16:33:53.535-04:002017-06-13T16:33:53.535-04:00Are there any other people in your workout class a...Are there any other people in your workout class around your age? Haha I think that would be a good place to try and make friends if so. :) Breakfast at Lillyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16925645673720403795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-72837978933073537022017-06-13T13:47:19.970-04:002017-06-13T13:47:19.970-04:00Absolutely LOVED Vermont when I went. Hope you sta...Absolutely LOVED Vermont when I went. Hope you start feeling completely at home soon!<br /><br /><br />Tori || Victori Media<br />https://www.victorimedia.comtdunlaphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08960858820205249863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-27208246052327087462017-06-13T13:26:02.123-04:002017-06-13T13:26:02.123-04:00Isn't it weird that dating apps are SO differe...Isn't it weird that dating apps are SO different in different places. When I used Tinder/OkCupid in Seattle a few years back I never really received inappropriate or sex oriented messages but when I hear about other people's experiences they are so hook up focused (and I'm like were we even using the same app??). <br /><br />I am sorry that moving has been so difficult at times, I cannot imagine that it is easy. Picking up and starting a new life across the country is NOT a cakewalk and you are so brave for making that big move for your career. I do think it will get better in time and you will make more friends and connections in Vermont. You are 100% going to be a stronger person because of these struggles, even if you aren't in Vermont forever I bet you will look back and appreciate how much these struggles helped you to grow in the long run. Struggles always have a way of doing that don't they? <br /><br />Wishing you all the best Annalise! You are such a sweet and friendly person, you deserve all the happiness <3Fairy Princess Jordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04463494133725810723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-90977190152486740802017-06-13T12:52:11.232-04:002017-06-13T12:52:11.232-04:00I think its great that you get involved! The movin...I think its great that you get involved! The moving transition process is hard and can take a while to get used to and for it to start to feel like home! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06201771084832647525noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-34338206176988514542017-06-13T12:49:04.098-04:002017-06-13T12:49:04.098-04:00Aw, a little puppy would definitely help with lone...Aw, a little puppy would definitely help with loneliness. They're a lot of work, but they're so much fun! I totally understand how hard it is moving somewhere and not knowing anyone. It does get better!<br /><br />Carrie | http://carrieeliseandkho.com/Carriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02094174747379980859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-1180302596167093282017-06-13T12:24:09.819-04:002017-06-13T12:24:09.819-04:00Thank you so much for the sweet comment Liza! I...Thank you so much for the sweet comment Liza! I'm sorry that you've been having a hard time post move also- but definitely good to know I'm not the only one who has had a hard time resettling! <3Annaliesehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07691548618653074600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-37960697723842917242017-06-13T11:27:51.858-04:002017-06-13T11:27:51.858-04:00I completely understand how you feel, and it's...I completely understand how you feel, and it's awful. My husband and I moved from CT to Raleigh about a year ago for his job. Since he was entering the police academy, the move came with a sort of ready made group of friends for him- he'd be going to the academy, training, studying, and eventually working with these people. I, on the other hand, had no way of meeting people. It's been tough for me to find a job down here. I left behind 2 jobs I loved, a book club full of girls my age, and an environment (literally! New England is [obviously] so different than the weather down here) I was familiar with. We didn't have a "fall" or "winter" this past year- it was basically 90 degrees from May-September, then just slightly cooler, so the holidays didn't feel the same at all either. It's been a really tough year because of some other things as well. So even though I have a significant other here, my social and professional life stinks and makes everything feel worse. It's so hard to make friends at this age (I'm a few years older, but I'm guessing it's a similar situation). Everyone is either single and wants to go out to bars, or they're married with children and houses and other responsibilities. <br />So long-winded rant aside... I don't have a lot of advice, but know you're not alone in feeling this way. It stinks, and we just kind of have to wait and see what happens =/Lizahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01037687361047362499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-32546304700835077232017-06-13T10:06:14.546-04:002017-06-13T10:06:14.546-04:00Oh that's a good idea! I hadn't thought ab...Oh that's a good idea! I hadn't thought about fostering a pet- only adoption!Annaliesehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07691548618653074600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-54717640999576712482017-06-13T10:05:48.685-04:002017-06-13T10:05:48.685-04:00I very much want to do a Young Professionals group...I very much want to do a Young Professionals group! There is one very in Burlington and I have tried reaching out to the president of it... but have heard nothing. It seems from what I've seen on their website like they aren't very active. :/ I hope there is a better one in your new home city! Annaliesehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07691548618653074600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-5843588338891232502017-06-13T09:33:25.711-04:002017-06-13T09:33:25.711-04:00Have you considered fostering a dog? Not only woul...Have you considered fostering a dog? Not only would you be saving a life (or several!) but it's a great option for people who can't adopt. The shelter/foster organization sometimes pays for the food/medical costs and it could be a great way to meet new people! I've moved twice now to new cities (Charlotte being one of them) and completely understand the struggle to meet new people. The biggest thing I've learned is if you're not happy, nothing is permanent. Being young and pretty much commitment free is the best time in life to make a change. Enjoy where you are now but know in a year you could end up being exactly where you need to be. Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07026902688667226760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-80290985365561180072017-06-13T08:30:39.297-04:002017-06-13T08:30:39.297-04:00Thank you so much for sharing and being honest! I ...Thank you so much for sharing and being honest! I definitely struggled with a lot of those same feelings when I moved to Fort Knox, and I'm sure I will struggle with them once I move to Iowa (minus the dating, that's already covered haha!) Try seeing if Burlington has a Young Professionals group run through the Chamber of Commerce. I know we have one in the rural Iowa town I will be moving to. That might be a good way to make friends if you can attend events due to your work schedule.Baileyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04982156216874612973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-21389186237129431992017-06-13T08:28:00.080-04:002017-06-13T08:28:00.080-04:00This colour palette goes really nicely on you!!
X...This colour palette goes really nicely on you!!<br /><br />XOXO<br />Preeti<br />https://damselcode.com/Preetihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05737878318573103099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3140057690761884909.post-77605060212413085412017-06-13T08:06:04.697-04:002017-06-13T08:06:04.697-04:00Love seeing how the move to Vermont is going, Anna...Love seeing how the move to Vermont is going, Annaliese! Hang in there- I know things will get better :)<br /><br />xoxo,<br />Katie<br /><a href="http://chicincarolina.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">chicincarolina.blogspot.com</a> Chic in Carolinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11038849308297351354noreply@blogger.com